Marriage.. Vivah...Shaadi.. Wedding...holy matrimony..!!
Many names are given to the pious bonding between a man and a woman committed for a lifetime of togetherness...for the good and the bad times...
It symbolises a committment between the individuals and also between their families...
Tonight, me and my 4 frds gossipped 7 and half hours in the hostel ( alongwith tang and maggi) about this topics(amongst various others )... it got me thinking..and finally i decided to blog it down @ 6 AM...!!
Marriages are of 2 types..arranged and love..
arranged means when ur family ( read parents) fix u up with a guy of their choice..and love is when u fix urself up and inform ur family lols....!!
Traditionally in India.. child marriages have been found to be extremely common..esp in the rural areas..!! however it was APPARENTLY abolished.. unfortunately its still prevalent..!!
i dnt understand the logic of marrying 2 young children who dnt even know the meanign of the word MARRIAGE !!
Balika Vadhu, the number one serial on air currently, potrays this concept brialliantly..hence.. iam not continuing it further..
other stigmas attached to traditional weddings was the SATI,widows and dowry system..
sati is when the woman(widowed) is expected to immolate herself in the pyre of her husband's dead body..!! This practice is currently abolished..however i get to hear a rare news of it occuring in same goddamn remote area of our country..!!
Widows suffered a worst plight at the hands of the women who were self appointed as the moral police of the society...
dnt sit here,dnt eat this, dnt wear this, dnt take part in this festivity, called abshaguni etc are some of the EMOTIONAL ATYACHARS suffered..
for more visual details...do watch Raj Kapoor's Prem Rog...!!
Dowry System.!! its a sophisticated of telling "yes iam selling my daughter"..!! dude..not happening..!! beti dena ek bada punya ka kaam hota hai..!! and we belittle it for some cash???
FUck... not happening..!!
The incidents heard ( esp in bihar-up side) abt mother in laws burning their daughter in laws is horrifying.!! if ur son is incapable of earnign tht much ( as expected) why the fuck u expect ur DIL to fulfill it from the coffers of her parents household???
Ok... lets see the present scenario..!!
these days...marriages @ times are just a business conveniences..!! Sometimes they strike bullseye..or they might turn topsy turvy...( not applicable in all cases)...
It has also turned into a huge business in itself... read: matrimonial services..!
The sex ratio is so skewed right now. that guys are ready to marry, yet finding no girls to hook on ..!!
DIVORCE! this is the most convenient way to get out of marriage...! for any sick and stupid reasons..ppl get divorced..this has also turned into a huge business racket..
Also lead parallel business like marriage counsellors etc...
I feel @ times...getting a DIVORCEE tag is also a status symbol..lols...
coming to my and my frds' beliefs.. i/we prefer arranged marriages..after all ur parents will know better abt things in life.. they will definitely look for a good household for u to wed into..!
however in love marriages.. if the guy iam dating is good enough to fulfill my parents expectations.. then only i would get him home.!! Since i dnt see the need to pursue a relationship to its fullest when i know its not going to be fruitful..!!
i also believe...all love-shove cannot end in marriage..! njoy the present time u have! simple... life will be so uncomplicated..!!
however the love marriage has its positive side... as the saying going " known devils are better than unknown devils" hehehehe!!
Extra marital affairs...!
its seriously not happening with me and my beliefs..!! when i give the guy full COMMITTMENT, i expect the same from him..!
yes this definitely means..no screwing aroung behind my back!! i would leave him if circumstances go awry wrong..!!!!
I also believe marriages shd be between ppl who belong to the same status class.. as in same economic background ( or the guy one notch up)..
i would never compromise my lifestyle and my parents reputation and get married to a person who is less financially sound than me.!! Not happening with me!!
I think i have written enough on this topic..
please feel free to comment and add ur own viewpoints..
once again thanks for reading and appreciating my writing and thoughts..!!
god bless...play safe... tc !!
love
Anushree Shrikant Lahoti...!
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April 04, 2009
March 29, 2009
GPA v/s Knowledge..!
i got a rap from my uncle today for scoring a 5.something cgpa..according to him and others, CGPA do count a lot ( read:important) and gives u some value addition..
however,i beg to differ..!
for me...i believe tht cgpa is just a eligibility cut off to sit for placements..Its over hyped and over rated..!!
what happened for the knowledge we thirst for?? wht abt learning abt different business terminologies(with their applications etc),strategies etc??
i believe in the knowledge MBA imparts and not the shit we dole out in papers to get marks!
@ times,u may or may not remember some points in the test paper, does that mean we are dodos?? we know nothing?? a mere test paper cannnot decide our fate.. it can lead us on a track but not decide..!
let me come back to cgpa matter,and tell u the reality.. the more closer a person gets to a professor the more numbers(marks) he gets..!! its a said and done thing in IBSB..! something like "u take care of me and i will see u r taken care of"..! many ppl in IBSB are crazy abt GPAs just to secure a job.. their motivational factors are different. from proving a point till paying of their loans! the book worms who make a mark on the GPA roster may or may not achieve the desired knowledge!
to conclude...
i give a damn abt gpa.. it doesnt define what type of a person iam or i would be!!
but the knowledge i got from MBA ( yes, its a definite value addition! iam seeing business in a clearer and better perspective) is definitely worth its salt !! a 5 pointer may exceed in his career tremendously whereas a 9 pointer may fail to do so !! its all upto ur capabilities and abilities.
however,i beg to differ..!
for me...i believe tht cgpa is just a eligibility cut off to sit for placements..Its over hyped and over rated..!!
what happened for the knowledge we thirst for?? wht abt learning abt different business terminologies(with their applications etc),strategies etc??
i believe in the knowledge MBA imparts and not the shit we dole out in papers to get marks!
@ times,u may or may not remember some points in the test paper, does that mean we are dodos?? we know nothing?? a mere test paper cannnot decide our fate.. it can lead us on a track but not decide..!
let me come back to cgpa matter,and tell u the reality.. the more closer a person gets to a professor the more numbers(marks) he gets..!! its a said and done thing in IBSB..! something like "u take care of me and i will see u r taken care of"..! many ppl in IBSB are crazy abt GPAs just to secure a job.. their motivational factors are different. from proving a point till paying of their loans! the book worms who make a mark on the GPA roster may or may not achieve the desired knowledge!
to conclude...
i give a damn abt gpa.. it doesnt define what type of a person iam or i would be!!
but the knowledge i got from MBA ( yes, its a definite value addition! iam seeing business in a clearer and better perspective) is definitely worth its salt !! a 5 pointer may exceed in his career tremendously whereas a 9 pointer may fail to do so !! its all upto ur capabilities and abilities.
February 09, 2009
Exams and their torture..!!
hey ppl.
the devil is back in the blogging scene.I was temporarily disconnected owing to the "EXAM PRESSURE".....
firstly let me advise all the MBA aspirants not 2 pursue this goddamn degree...
its too stressful and demanding.. even if u survive it (even by a margin), the placements (carrot at the end of the stick) is a far flung dream... thanks to the heavy word RECESSION...!!
now,.. coming back to the ICFAI BUSINESS SCHOOL EXAM For 2nd sem... ur marked on the basis of ur paper but on how ur neighbour performs.. yes this distorted system is called relative grading.. it can make ur GPa or break it..
An important Qualification/trait u have is MASKAFYING! u must be capable to butter ur faculty to the hilt...in our parlance it is called A** licking..! very very essential (iam poor @ it so less marks).. this is in lieu of internal marks.. they form crucial part of ur grades.
Exam time in our hostel was sight to behold... everyone awake till the wee hours of morning... making coffee @ 3 in the morning for a bunch of girls who feel like burning the book cover to cover..!
and we greeted others by "are u able to study? how much did u complete?"
whereas i was " excuse me ? which exam 2mrw? portion??"lol..
our nerves were frayed to the last neuron..so much to cram.. so much to understand.. plain and simple SO MUCH !! but less time..
i actually went blank in HR paper.. thanks to the sleepless nights earlier..!
the variety of mixed emotions found after the exam was hilarious.. esp LAw and Finance papers.. only word which everyone ( i mean 540 students) said GOT RAPED !!!!
yet everyone was dutifully logged in Gtalk and with their Superb Taglines....
i had never studied so much in my entire life as i did for this exams.. i just wanted to clear all papers and not give summer term..phew.. it was streneous !!!
chalo at the end of the day, we got raped by few papers and we managed to rape few papers...
right now my whole batch is chilling @ their homes and waiting in anticipation to see whatt the SIP time turns out to be..
All's well that ends Well..
do post comments..
muaaahh !!
love
anu
the devil is back in the blogging scene.I was temporarily disconnected owing to the "EXAM PRESSURE".....
firstly let me advise all the MBA aspirants not 2 pursue this goddamn degree...
its too stressful and demanding.. even if u survive it (even by a margin), the placements (carrot at the end of the stick) is a far flung dream... thanks to the heavy word RECESSION...!!
now,.. coming back to the ICFAI BUSINESS SCHOOL EXAM For 2nd sem... ur marked on the basis of ur paper but on how ur neighbour performs.. yes this distorted system is called relative grading.. it can make ur GPa or break it..
An important Qualification/trait u have is MASKAFYING! u must be capable to butter ur faculty to the hilt...in our parlance it is called A** licking..! very very essential (iam poor @ it so less marks).. this is in lieu of internal marks.. they form crucial part of ur grades.
Exam time in our hostel was sight to behold... everyone awake till the wee hours of morning... making coffee @ 3 in the morning for a bunch of girls who feel like burning the book cover to cover..!
and we greeted others by "are u able to study? how much did u complete?"
whereas i was " excuse me ? which exam 2mrw? portion??"lol..
our nerves were frayed to the last neuron..so much to cram.. so much to understand.. plain and simple SO MUCH !! but less time..
i actually went blank in HR paper.. thanks to the sleepless nights earlier..!
the variety of mixed emotions found after the exam was hilarious.. esp LAw and Finance papers.. only word which everyone ( i mean 540 students) said GOT RAPED !!!!
yet everyone was dutifully logged in Gtalk and with their Superb Taglines....
i had never studied so much in my entire life as i did for this exams.. i just wanted to clear all papers and not give summer term..phew.. it was streneous !!!
chalo at the end of the day, we got raped by few papers and we managed to rape few papers...
right now my whole batch is chilling @ their homes and waiting in anticipation to see whatt the SIP time turns out to be..
All's well that ends Well..
do post comments..
muaaahh !!
love
anu
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